I’m surprised that I’m still surprised how often people answer “busy” when I ask them how they are. Sometimes it seems as though people view being busy as a badge of honor to be respected, and maybe even worthy of sympathy.
Well I’m proudly taking off my busy badge and doing all I can to resist putting it on, even when others insist. The chaos, urgency and difficulty of being in the moment caused by being busy are just not what I want my life to be about. Sure, there are unforeseen events, like a friend’s hospitalization, that require life to be more hectic, but I resolve not to make that my normal state of being.
Part of my ability to achieve success in this arena is making the state of being un-busy a comfortable place to be. Rather than thinking about all the things on my to-do list, I focus on what I’m doing right now. There’s peace in knowing that whether I’m buying groceries, working with a client, or talking on the phone to a family member, that’s all I need to focus on now. I’m where I need to be doing what I need to do in this moment. And when I finish doing this thing, I’ll move on to the next thing. No need to panic or feel frazzled – just face what’s before me now and focus on that one thing until I need to do something else. Unless absolutely necessary, don’t try to squeeze in just one more phone call before I need to head out the door; don’t try squeeze in an errand before hopping on the often traffic-clogged expressway to get to an appointment; don’t add one more thing to this weekend’s activities that will leave me feeling exhausted rather than replenished.
Sure being un-busy can be easier said than done, but to me, it’s a way of being that’s worth pursuing. We certainly can’t control everything, but if we look hard, we have control over more situations than we may realize. Saying “no” in the right moments can help you say “yes” to a life you love. Read my prior blog post to give you some ideas on how to say “no”. I’d love to hear that you’ve been able to take off that busy badge.
Wishing you simplicity, harmony and freedom,